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באיחור אופייני, מצרפת סקירה קצרה שכתבה מכרה שלי על הספר של פנטלי:
Pantley starts by explaining that 'sleeping through the night' for a
baby is a stretch of 5 hours. That is the goal, though once it is
reached, she lets you know that it is possible to stretch this gradually
as baby gets older. She suggests keeping a log of how many times baby
wakes in the night, how long for, length of nursing, etc. This is a
hassle, but it's only once and gives the mother a frame of reference for
checking progress.
Mother needs to then look at the log and think about how many times baby
is actually hungry, nursing for long period, gulping milk, and look at
how often baby is just sucking briefly to fall back to sleep. The idea
is to lovingly and gently teach baby that he can fall back to sleep
without nursing when he's not really hungry, but of course still to
nurse him those times that he's really hungry.
She suggests several ideas to build into a regular pre-sleep routine,
starting even 3-4 hours before you want your baby to go to sleep. Make
sure all activities are calm, give a bath, play soothing music, rocking,
back-rubs, singing, whatever - just make a gentle soothing routine so
that baby gets used to the sensations leading up to bedtime.
When it comes to the last nursing when baby is falling asleep, try and
ease the nipple out of baby's mouth before he is totally asleep. Most
babies will immediately start rooting around to find that nipple again.
Give the nipple back to the baby, count ten seconds and try again. Keep
repeating this until baby finally falls asleep, whether still attached
to the nipple or on one of the occasions when mom has removed herself
and baby has been too close to sleep to resist. With persistence, baby
will fall asleep sooner and more easily, eg after 4 'removals' of the
breast, rather than after 8!! Then down to 2 or 3...
She stresses that this is not a quick-fix solution, but a long term
solution which requires determination and persistence. Babies do
gradually get used to the bedtime routine and to falling asleep after
bf, rather than during bf. This helps with the middle of the night
wakings because there are already more things mom can do to 'remind' the
baby that it's sleepy time. Any of the pre-bedtime routine things will
help, whether it's humming a tune used at bedtime, rubbing baby's back a
bit, whatever.
Another important element is using "key-words". Mom should choose words
to use to help baby fall asleep. When she's nursing him to sleep, she
should use these words when he's actually falling asleep, ie just
after the last time she's removed her breast. (eg "sleepy time"/
"sleep well baby"/ "time to go to sleep"/or whatever words mom chooses.)
The sense of hearing is the last part of humans to go to sleep (and the
first to wake up) and the idea is for the baby to associate these words
with the feeling of falling asleep. If the words are used too early,
baby will associate them with bf before sleeping, not with the sleepy
sensation, so they must be used initially when baby is actually falling
asleep. Once the connection is made, the words themselves can help baby
to fall asleep, eg in the middle of the night, or during a nursing when
mom has had enough and wants baby to release the breast. It is quite
amazing to watch a 1-2 year old who used to nurse for at least 1/2 hour
to fall asleep to nurse for several minutes and when mom says softly her
"magic words", he releases the nipple himself, rolls over and falls asleep!!
The key words can help a baby who is waking in the night not to fully
wake but to go back to sleep if he's not really hungry. But the main
thing is that these techniques are teaching a baby gently (as opposed
to ferberizing) how to go back to sleep on his own, without needing the
nipple every time, and babies do seem to wake less often - they may
still be waking, or partially waking, but they can get themselves back
to sleep without nursing, unless they are truly hungry.
Pantley suggests re-doing the night log no more frequently than every 2
weeks, so that the mom can see that there is progress, even if it is
slow. This is a slwo procedure but one that gets results. I would
strongly recommend a mother interested in the techniques to get a copy
of the book.
באיחור אופייני, מצרפת סקירה קצרה שכתבה מכרה שלי על הספר של פנטלי:
Pantley starts by explaining that 'sleeping through the night' for a
baby is a stretch of 5 hours. That is the goal, though once it is
reached, she lets you know that it is possible to stretch this gradually
as baby gets older. She suggests keeping a log of how many times baby
wakes in the night, how long for, length of nursing, etc. This is a
hassle, but it's only once and gives the mother a frame of reference for
checking progress.
Mother needs to then look at the log and think about how many times baby
is actually hungry, nursing for long period, gulping milk, and look at
how often baby is just sucking briefly to fall back to sleep. The idea
is to lovingly and gently teach baby that he can fall back to sleep
without nursing when he's not really hungry, but of course still to
nurse him those times that he's really hungry.
She suggests several ideas to build into a regular pre-sleep routine,
starting even 3-4 hours before you want your baby to go to sleep. Make
sure all activities are calm, give a bath, play soothing music, rocking,
back-rubs, singing, whatever - just make a gentle soothing routine so
that baby gets used to the sensations leading up to bedtime.
When it comes to the last nursing when baby is falling asleep, try and
ease the nipple out of baby's mouth before he is totally asleep. Most
babies will immediately start rooting around to find that nipple again.
Give the nipple back to the baby, count ten seconds and try again. Keep
repeating this until baby finally falls asleep, whether still attached
to the nipple or on one of the occasions when mom has removed herself
and baby has been too close to sleep to resist. With persistence, baby
will fall asleep sooner and more easily, eg after 4 'removals' of the
breast, rather than after 8!! Then down to 2 or 3...
She stresses that this is not a quick-fix solution, but a long term
solution which requires determination and persistence. Babies do
gradually get used to the bedtime routine and to falling asleep after
bf, rather than during bf. This helps with the middle of the night
wakings because there are already more things mom can do to 'remind' the
baby that it's sleepy time. Any of the pre-bedtime routine things will
help, whether it's humming a tune used at bedtime, rubbing baby's back a
bit, whatever.
Another important element is using "key-words". Mom should choose words
to use to help baby fall asleep. When she's nursing him to sleep, she
should use these words when he's [b]actually[/b] falling asleep, ie just
[b]after[/b] the [b]last[/b] time she's removed her breast. (eg "sleepy time"/
"sleep well baby"/ "time to go to sleep"/or whatever words mom chooses.)
The sense of hearing is the last part of humans to go to sleep (and the
first to wake up) and the idea is for the baby to associate these words
with the feeling of falling asleep. If the words are used too early,
baby will associate them with bf before sleeping, not with the sleepy
sensation, so they must be used initially when baby is actually falling
asleep. Once the connection is made, the words themselves can help baby
to fall asleep, eg in the middle of the night, or during a nursing when
mom has had enough and wants baby to release the breast. It is quite
amazing to watch a 1-2 year old who used to nurse for at least 1/2 hour
to fall asleep to nurse for several minutes and when mom says softly her
"magic words", he releases the nipple himself, rolls over and falls asleep!!
The key words can help a baby who is waking in the night not to fully
wake but to go back to sleep if he's not really hungry. But the main
thing is that these techniques are teaching a baby [b]gently[/b] (as opposed
to ferberizing) how to go back to sleep on his own, without needing the
nipple every time, and babies do seem to wake less often - they may
still be waking, or partially waking, but they can get themselves back
to sleep without nursing, unless they are truly hungry.
Pantley suggests re-doing the night log no more frequently than every 2
weeks, so that the mom can see that there is progress, even if it is
slow. This is a slwo procedure but one that gets results. I would
strongly recommend a mother interested in the techniques to get a copy
of the book.